All day yesterday I thought I was chilly because I have a cold, turns out nope, our boiler had broken down. Either way, going on 24 hours of no heat and the sniffles. Tea and fuzzy hoodies are keeping me going. I am posting hot fucking people all day to try and keep warm.
Forever Rizzo. <3
Fucking hell yes… all the right things.
(Sigh. This post is talkin’ to a girl who needs a serious spanking.) (And not the sweet friendly spanks she got last night, the real kind that make her fuss.) (The girl who needs a spanking is me, in case that was unclear.)
(Also who is this gorgeous woman?) (ED: This gorgeous woman is Nazanin Mandi and I’m in looooove.)
Heart’s Holiday Guide: Pamper Them
This one is a no brainer, and kind of a classic gift in general. But if your partner is a Mother or is in a care-giving profession I can guarantee you they are in need of some pampering.Many of us who spend so much time taking care of the needs of others neglect our own.
A gift certificate for a massage, manicure/pedicure, or appointment at the hair-salon are a concrete way to encourage someone who doesn’t make self-care a priority to do so. If you happen to have any of those skills you can make a coupon for your services that they can cash in at any time. If you can afford to splurge on professional services do so, it’s a great way to support local businesses. (For massages always ensure the services are with a Registered Massage Therapist.)
Home based ideas for pampering can include aromatherapy candles or bath-salts, a luxurious bath pillow for relaxation in the tub, their favourite teas with a fancy big mug or a new set of super comfy pyjamas.
My very favourite pampering ideas take it a step further:
- If your partner enjoys massage, yoga, or being touched appropriately do them a favour and book them a Thai Yoga Massage. Seriously. This is one of my favourite things on the planet. From the first time I had one I was hooked. Thai Massages are done on floor mats while you are wearing loose clothing. You do not need to be flexible or in good shape. The therapist will help you to stretch your muscles during the massage. I get so relaxed I have been known to drool during these treatments. Thai massages are so good for the body and your partner will walk away feeling like a million bucks.
- If your partner enjoys wearing make up book them a makeover at a local establishment (alternately chains like The Body Shop, MAC, Aveda and Sephora all offer this service.) Not only is it really pleasant having someone spoil you with creams and soft brushes, but it’s a great boost to the self-esteem to spend time with a good cosmetician who will help you learn how to enhance your best features. It’s also a fantastic way to learn some new tricks and shake up your makeup routine, most of us who wear cosmetics get in the habit of doing the same old thing over and over. Adding something new to this routine helps inspire your creativity and shake things up. And you walk away feeling beautiful. (Make sure to fawn over your partners new look when you see them!)
- A Hitachi Magic Wand. Just do it. If your partner does not have one, they need one. It works so well as a massager and even better as a sex toy. It is a purchase you will not regret. I especially recommend this if your partner requires a lot of stimulation to orgasm, struggles to orgasm, stresses out about taking forever to orgasm or really loves to orgasm.
Pampering gifts say to your partner “You are worthy of care. Here. Have some.” What a great holiday message.
(Pampering gifts are also the perfect gift to give yourself!)
This is what I daydream about….
courtneytrouble: love this photo. love two queer as fuck femmes with kiss proof lipstick, long lashes, and fierce lingerie ready to devour each other. there’s nothing fake about this. femme is queer.
courtney trouble & sandy bottoms / photo by mickey mod
"Lolita, when she chose, could be a most exasperating brat. I was not really quite prepared for her fits of disorganized boredom, intense and vehement griping, her sprawling, droopy, dopey-eyed style, and what is called goofing off — a kind of diffused clowning which she thought was tough in a boyish hoodlum way."
- Vladimir Nabokov, Lolita, Part Two, Ch. 1
Can we start a Dublin-Soul group? I think I could use that; little black dress, harmonies, horn section, all kinds of big dreams, an adoring crowd. A chance to sing it all out.
The Commitments is one of my favourite movies, but mostly because the music reaches deep into my heart.
I’ve never sang for you, tumbl buddies, only a few people here have even heard my voice, but I think I’m going to change that soon. I wanted to do something special when I reached an upcoming follower-count milestone… so I’ll work on that.
In the mean time please forgive me for neglecting my inbox. I have read your lovely messages, I just haven’t had time to respond. But I will!!!! Promise.
Things That Heal an Achy-Breaky Heart #9
There will be days that are harder for one reason or another; because they mark a milestone, or hit close to home, or make things more real. Because of reminders, or dates on the calendar, or events you would have attended together.
Breathe. Slowly in through your nose, then out through your mouth. Really deep, really deliberate.
Start again from the beginning, take care of yourself, distract yourself, breathe. You’re gonna be just fine. Fall 7 times, get up 8.
Image by Andrea Mary Marshall
Hey internet… lay off with the real talk for a bit, k?
“leaving is not enough; you must
stay gone. train your heart
like a dog. change the locks
even on the house he’s never
visited. you lucky, lucky girl.
you have an apartment
just your size. a bathtub
full of tea. a heart the size
of Arizona, but not nearly
so arid. don’t wish away
your cracked past, your
crooked toes, your problems
are papier mache puppets
you made or bought because the vendor
at the market was so compelling you just
had to have them.” - Frida Kahlo to Marty McConnell, a poem by Marty McConnell.
I wish I was there to help you move.
And by help you move I mean completely distract you from anything productive.